WHAT TOPICS/SUBJECTS ARE TABOO IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP?

What can't you discuss with your spouse or SO? 

People are so different, especially in what can be asked of them or what they expect from others in a relationship.

'Standard' touchy issues such as how many lovers in the past, when he/she was dis-virgin-ed and by whom, how much pay you get, etc., are, of course run of the mill examples/cases for a stonewall to be expected.

SO, WHAT TOPICS ARE OFF LIMITS TO YOU?

ARE YOU THE SECRETIVE OR 'MYSTERIOUS' TYPE OF PERSON?

WHAT USUALLY COMES TO YOUR MIND WHEN YOU SEE A BALD HEADED PERSON?

What's your reaction? Revulsion, a smirk of derision, pity, understanding, laughter, anything....

Surely, not indifference? Just as most girls 'swear' they can't go out with a guy who habitually pulls his trousers up to his navel, many people just feel the urge to " ...chase them crazy bald heads ....right out ...out of town..."

What Leads You?

What motivates you? What drives you to go in a particular direction? When you wake up in the morning, what motivates you to start your day? When you can answer these questions, you will know at a deeper level, who you are.

When you know who you are, you can decide how you want to show up in the world. This, in turn, determines how you will behave in your relationships with others.

Who do you want to be today? You get to choose. You get to decide in every moment who you want to be. Keep in mind, it is okay to be happy, okay to be sad, okay to be funny, okay to want to be alone and okay to want more. Try to refrain from judging your behavior. When you make a conscious choice, before you follow through with it, stop and notice how you feel. Do you want to make any adjustments? You are in charge of your choices. Make those choices good ones.

Men and Women – Worlds Apart?

Are the challenges faced in relationships today different than 20 years ago, 10 years ago, or even 5 years ago?

This seems like a silly question. Of course they are. So why do we use the same relationship skills that were used 30 years ago? A woman’s role today is dramatically different than it was even just 10 years ago. Men’s roles have also changed. Never before in history have we faced the unique challenges of blending; family and children, work in a maleoriented environment, and if there is any energy left a love-relationship. Our society has few role models for these multiple challenges. Our mothers and grandmothers lived in a world where needs, desires and expectations were defined differently. We live in a world where the demands on our time effects how we choose to spend each day. Most of us are either consciously or unconsciously using the skills we learned by watching our parents. Maybe you are one of the people who swore they wouldn’t be like their parents, where do you learn the skills necessary to face today’s challenges in relationships?

The first step is to understand the differences between women and men. What are women’s interests and how do men’s interests differ? What makes men and women feel good about themselves in a relationship? What do women do to relieve stress and understand their problems? What do men do to relieve stress and solve their problems? These last two questions demonstrate how hard it is to effectively ask the same question about women & men, proving they approach problems differently. 

Why do we communicate so differently?